Chronic Pain During the Festive Season: A Reminder to Prioritise Self-Care

Christmas is a magical time of year, filled with festive cheer, twinkling lights, and gatherings with loved ones. But for those of us living with chronic pain, it can also be a challenging season. The hustle and bustle, the planning and hosting, and the expectation to be everything to everyone can feel overwhelming.

Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about navigating the festive period while managing chronic pain. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s taught me valuable lessons about, preparation, self-care, asking for help, and finding joy in the moments I can.

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Chronic pain doesn’t take a break at Christmas time, so we have to be mindful of our limits. Whether it’s taking time to rest when your body needs it or saying no to plans that feel too much, listening to yourself is key.

This season, try to carve out moments of quiet amidst the festivities. A warm bath, a cup of tea by the Tree, or even 10 minutes of deep breathing can make a world of difference. Remember, you deserve care and kindness—especially from yourself.

I’ve spent many Christmases trying to be the perfect host, managing pain while keeping a smile on my face and making everything "just right." But the truth is, none of us are superheroes. Trying to do it all often left me exhausted and in more pain, unable to fully enjoy the day.

This year, give yourself permission to take it slow. Christmas doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful. Whether the decorations aren’t exactly how you imagined or dinner is a little later than planned, focus on the joy of being together with loved ones.

One of the most powerful things I’ve learned is that asking for help is not a weakness—it’s a strength. Whether it’s delegating tasks like setting the table, wrapping gifts, or asking someone to bring a dish, letting others step in can lighten the load significantly.

Family and friends often want to help—they just don’t always know how. Be open about what you need, and remember that leaning on others doesn’t make you any less capable.

Living with chronic pain has taught me to treasure the small, beautiful moments that make Christmas special: the songs, the glow of fairy lights, or the laughter of friends and family. Focus on the things that bring you happiness, however small they may seem.

It’s okay if you can’t do everything this Christmas. What matters most is making the moments you can manage meaningful.

I encourage you to be gentle with yourself. You don’t have to do it all, and you don’t have to face the season alone. Prioritise your well-being, ask for support, and let go of the pressure to make everything perfect.

Most importantly, don’t forget that you deserve to enjoy at this magical time of the year too. From me to you, I wish you a Merry Christmas filled with moments of peace, love, and joy. Take care of yourselves 🎄✨